Who has never asked themselves this in their life? When I was a teenager I was sure they didn’t like me, I didn’t understand how a mother couldn’t care about her son, what about my father? That was 95% missing, the minimum of the minimum for him was a lot.
After I grew up and began to analyze the living situation my mother had, I discovered that she tried to demonstrate her love by keeping 3 children alone, taking advantage of small opportunities to bring home money. She was alone and yet she never lacked food, shelter or clothing, we didn’t have the best in the world but we weren’t in a situation of misery because alone she protected her children as best she could, she didn’t lead an easy life, but she was there trying to do something for your children.
That’s when I saw her differently, I started to see a war, which she fought alone, and she couldn’t always give attention or affection to her 3 children because she was too worried about trying to keep them alive. Today I understand that this was her way of loving.
During the process of forming a family, many of them, when they have children, try to be better or want to replicate what they have already experienced, but the worries of life and emotional and financial instability end up coming together and becoming an uncontrolled snowball.
When you look back, you can no longer make up for lost time and fix mistakes that were most of the time said with words and actions. But in general, our parents do love us, but they are also lost trying to know how to love and care for a life.
Just as there are those parents who give everything to raise their children in the best possible way, showing affection and lots of love, we have those parents who really don’t like their children and that is not a justification for accepting humiliation, mistreatment and emotional control, we must love and respect our parents but we know that there are parents who are masochistic and completely clueless about their character, in which case the most recommended thing is to identify, talk and clarify things.
And if you are old enough to support yourself, start by moving house, if you don’t have this condition, start by going to a psychologist if that option is not viable, watch self-help videos, read good books, think about how to grow financially and see them as models of people you should never be in life.
Don’t feel inferior because your parents are like this, each person lives a different reality, we all have difficulties in this life, what differentiates us is the way we deal with the situation, the sooner you choose the best path for your development, the easier life will be
And yes, if you have brothers, don’t think that you are less loved because it’s not like that, they love you equally, what makes you think like this is the fact that in terms of your brothers’ character or abilities, they need more attention from yours. parents than you. In other cases we are always bought… in this regard, I believe they do this to try to motivate you to be better and they fail to see that this doesn’t help at all.
My dears… I’m sure that this relationship of motherhood, fatherhood and children is not easy for anyone, especially since no one is prepared to live this relationship. What I recommend is trying to always put yourself in other people’s shoes and having lots of sincere dialogues.